FOUR STEPS TO HONORING BOUNDARIES

STEP ONE:  Identifying the Struggle -  Jesus was Tempted

Women often come to coaching because they are exhausted, weary, overwhelmed, stuck or simply need support. This step begins with identifying the specific challenge—whether it’s difficult relationships, disobedience to God’s Word, personal struggles with discipline, or any number of things. We ask key questions: What is the problem? Why is this important to address now? How is this affecting your life? By answering these questions, you gain clarity on how a lack of boundaries may be draining your emotional, spiritual, or physical well-being. Maybe you're saying "yes" too often, feeling resentment, or struggling to prioritize what matters most. This step sets the foundation by recognizing the areas where boundaries are needed to bring peace and align your life with God’s plan.

STEP TWO:  Establish Your Limits - Jesus Rested

This step moves from awareness to action. What needs to change? We examine where and how to establish healthy limitations—whether with others, within yourself, or in your walk with God. This may involve stepping back from unhealthy dynamics, making a deeper commitment to obedience, or practicing self-control in areas of temptation. Jesus modeled this perfectly—He withdrew often to be with the Father (Luke 5:16), set clear priorities despite others’ demands (Mark 1:35-39), and communicated truth in love (John 8:11). We practice having difficult conversations, learning to say no with grace, and surrendering control where needed. Boundaries are not walls to shut people out but bridges to healthy, God-honoring relationships.

STEP THREE:  Maintaining Consistency - Jesus Never Wavered

Boundaries must be reinforced repeatedly before they become a natural part of your life. This is where many women struggle—setting a boundary but backing down when challenged. In this step, we focus on maintaining boundaries through consistency, affirmation, and practice. The enemy often tempts us to revert back to our old ways, but Scripture reminds us to stand firm (Galatians 6:9). Jesus was unwavering in His purpose—He stayed true to His mission even when misunderstood or pressured. We work through real-life scenarios, learning how to kindly but firmly reinforce boundaries, so they become second nature. Repetition leads to transformation.

STEP FOUR:  Honoring Boundaries - Jesus Honored God